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# To give, to donate and to forgive… that hurts
- URL: https://amemamem.com.br/en/to-give-to-donate-and-to-forgive-that-hurts/
- Published: 2021-06-22T23:30:30.000Z
- Updated: 2026-11-09T21:46:15.000Z
- Description: Last week, I woke up in the morning sad, depressed and with no desire to get out of bed.
- Author: Airton Humber
- Tags: #en, #de-dar-doar-e-perdoar-isso-doi

Last week, I woke up in the morning sad, depressed and with no desire to get out of bed. I was thinking about some things I lack and have not yet achieved, despite the many efforts I have made. The more I thought about it, the deeper the sadness went. After a good few minutes, brooding over that sadness, the Lord brought to my mind that what I really lacked was:  
Dar  
Doar  
Perdoar  
All starting with **D**, and that **hurts** (in Portuguese, "dói").  
(We may at first think that Perdoar does not start with D, but Perdoar is the highest expression of Doar)  
**To give (Dar)** is to hand over something to someone who asks us, as a reaction. **To donate (Doar)** is to hand over something on our own initiative, to someone we think deserves our attention. **To forgive (Perdoar)** is to donate something to someone who does not deserve it; if they deserved it, it would be only justice.

I realized then that I was looking at a glass that was more than half full, and noticing only the part that was missing to fill the glass. And the Lord kept dealing with me: What you lack is… **Understanding**!

When I understood this, for the umpteenth time, my state changed and I began to rejoice. I got up from bed, remembering that very few things really are lacking in my life and that if I keep looking only at what I lack I will be sad forever. On the other hand, I have so many things to be thankful for…

And, at that exact moment it came to me: That's it, exactly, **Give thanks**! **Express your gratitude**! By doing this, by expressing gratitude for so many things I have already received, I exulted; every last trace of sadness was gone.

What can we learn from this? The Holy Scriptures teach that it is better to give than to receive; although what we really like is to receive. They also teach that the more we give the more we receive. And, for lack of understanding, because we forget the Divine who dwells in all human beings, we make ourselves small, looking only at our own limited capacity.

With the awareness of the reality of the divine presence within us, everything changes: All moments become the best moments, all people are forgiven, regardless of the size of their guilt. We too are forgiven and are the best expression of what we can be, up to that moment. And there are no more limits, because of the Divine power within us.

We all know some truly giving people, people with the grace to listen to us and help us, regardless of the resources available. Have you noticed that, most of the time, everything can be solved with a good pair of ears and a mouth that announces good things, even if we do not see how it will happen; this is our likeness to the Creator: To call into existence what does not yet exist!

So, if the so-called material resources are limited, our immaterial resources are unlimited and they change everything, when we have the boldness to call them into existence.

Let us look at some examples:  
In the parable of the talents: The more we multiply what we receive, the more we will receive.  
Peter and John, when that crippled man asked them for something, expecting to receive some money: We have no silver or gold, but get up, take your bed and walk!  
The prophet Elijah with the widow of Zarephath: Make a cake for me and, with what is left, make another for you and your son.  
Jesus feeding a multitude with a few fish and loaves: He gave thanks, shared among them, and everyone was satisfied.  
In all these cases they trusted in the one who can multiply the little we have, through thanksgiving and the boldness to act against all the limiting rationality of traditions.

Are you sad, depressed? Do you want to change your state? What comes out of your mouth comes from your heart and that is what contaminates or infects you.  
Let there be light! Amen!