Living the New

The resistance of the old

There is a silent phenomenon I have been observing over the years.

Sometimes a conversation brings light.
A text touches us.
A truth is revealed with clarity.

And for a few minutes… everything seems simple.

The person breathes.
Smiles.
And says:

“Wow.”

But then… the old comes back.

Not as an attack.
Not as rudeness.
Not as open rejection.

It comes back gently.

Like a “yes… but”.

And that is when I realize:
the greatest challenge for human beings is not hearing the new.

It is living the new. ►

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The “Wow” and the “but”

The “Wow” is real.

It is the moment when the truth goes through the person without resistance.
It is when they see that there is a lighter, cleaner, truer way.

But the “but” is also real.

It appears when that same truth starts asking for something nobody wants to hand over easily:

control.

Because the old almost always has a center:

the need to control in order to feel safe.

Controlling the other person.
Controlling the future.
Controlling the image.
Controlling the relationship.
Controlling the risk.

And when someone touches that point, the old rises up.

Not with shouting.
But with justifications.

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The old always looks like prudence

One of the most dangerous things about the old is that it rarely presents itself as “error”.

It presents itself as common sense.

It speaks like this:

• “in practice it’s not quite like that…”

• “but it depends…”

• “but there are cases…”

• “but society doesn’t work like that…”

• “but if I accept this, I become weak…”

• “but I need to protect myself…”

And suddenly, what was light becomes debate.
What was rest becomes argument.
What was freedom becomes fear.

And the old wins… again.

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Why is it so hard to let go of the old?

Because the old is not just an idea.

It is a place.

A place of identity.
A place of survival.
A place of repetition.
A place of tradition.

The old is comfortable because it is already known.
And the new frightens because it demands faith.

Not religious faith.

Faith in the simplest sense:

trusting that it is possible to live differently.

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The new is not theory. It is a path.

Many people like to hear about the new.

But the new is not a lecture.

The new is a path.

And that requires losing something:

• losing the pride of being right

• losing the pleasure of correcting

• losing the habit of controlling

• losing the illusion of security

• losing the power to “change the other”

• losing the right to react the way you always reacted

That is why the new is so beautiful… and so rare.

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Living in newness of life

I noticed something that saddens me and frees me at the same time:

I can talk with someone for more than an hour,
and the next day they usually no longer remember.

Not because they are a special case.
It is because human nature is like that.

And that goes for me too.

I myself have forgotten deep truths that I had seen clearly.
I have gone back to the automatic.
I have gone back to the old language.
I have gone back to fear disguised as prudence.

So I learned that living the new is not an event.

It is a constant return.

A return to the light.
A return to simplicity.
A return to the Spirit.
A return to Today.

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The resistance of the old is a sign

Over time, I have noticed something important:

when a text only produces a “Wow”, it may have been merely beautiful.

But when it produces a “Wow”… and then produces resistance,
it is because it touched the right place.

The resistance of the old is a sign that the new came too close.

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The past, the future… and Today

A reader commented on something that made me think about the past, the present and the future.

The past tries to hold us in it, through guilt, accusation and memory that paralyzes us.

The future does not belong to us either, and it tries to dominate us through fear.

But there is a place where life is possible: Today.

It is in Today that I can breathe, trust, choose, love and move on.

Not because I control the present, but because God gave me this moment as solid ground. And maybe that is why it is called the present.

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The new is not imposed. It is chosen.

I have tried to change the other person.

And I learned the hardest way:
it does not work.

There is no foolproof way to change someone.

But there is a foolproof way to live:

not trying to control.
not trying to reform.
not trying to turn living together into correction.

Accepting the other as they are.
Accepting the risks of living together.
And trusting God in Today.

Because living the new is not living without risks.

It is living without being governed by them.

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Conclusion

The old always comes back.

But the new is also always available.

And maybe that is the greatest difference between the two:
the old is comfortable.
because it is automatic and demands no decision.
only repetition.

but the comfort of the old is not rest.
it is prison.

the new demands effort.
because it demands faith.

but that effort does not become a burden.
it becomes rest.

Living in newness of life is not a beautiful speech.

It is a daily choice.

And, many times, a silent one.

Today.

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Learn more:
How to change the other? A foolproof way